A breakup brings pain, tears and heartache. Life comes to a halt. Nothing seems to work. Dreams gets shattered and you feel hopeless, but it doesn’t have to be like that.

Gather courage, take control of your life and move on. Here are 8 tips to deal with a breakup.

Accept the Reality

We always want to stay in control and sometimes, we do succeed but there are times, when things are not in our hands. Call it destiny, fate, luck, life, god or whatever you like. One thing is for sure that there’s some mysterious power greater than us doing things we may not like. A break up could be one of such things, but don’t be too harsh on yourself.

Don’t Push Yourself too Hard to Forget Her

You have seen beautiful dreams with her, made so many promises to her that now it seems almost impossible not to have her by your side. Hard it may sound, but the reality is, she is no more your girl friend. You want to forget her. Why? Because she didn’t turn up as you had expected?

Remember those moments you’ve had with her? They were so beautiful that you wanted them to last forever. Don’t insult those moments by trying to forget her. Be grateful instead- for those magical moments of love, for those beautiful evenings, for those caring nights, for those cozy afternoons, for the joy, laughter and fun.

She made your life a lot richer than ever. Let those memories stay with you or may be, let them go. Do whatever feels right. Don’t fight. Just go with the flow.

Forgive Her

Life is infinite. You never know what plans life has for you in store. Harboring a grudge in your heart is not a good idea. You don’t know the real reason why she dumped you? You only know what she told you or maybe you assumed something by yourself.

She may be still in love with you and wants to be with you, but, maybe she has some other reasons not to stay in a relationship anymore and she doesn’t want you to know those reasons.

Who knows what happened? Don’t be judgmental.
You loved her so much that you can’t afford NOT to forgive her. She deserved the love then and now she deserves the forgiveness. Forgive her and move on.

This too Shall Pass

Nothing lasts forever. Things change with time either for good or bad. It’s up to you, how you see them. It’s just a matter of time. Time is the greatest healer. It heals every wound, no matter how deep it is. Give yourself some time and soon you’ll see the pain disappearing and life getting back to normal again.

Spend Time with Family and Friends

A breakup is not the end of the world, though it may seem like one.
No matter what, life goes on. You need to go with the flow. Family and friends can help you overcome the heartache. Share with them what you are going through – emotions, mental blockages, grudge or whatever that is bothering you.

Maybe, you can share it with your father. Does that sound scary and impractical? If yes, let it be, you might surprise yourself to get some wonderful tips and emotional support from his side. (he also might have gone through the same trauma sometime)

Friends also can help you feel good about yourself. Do spend time with them. Online gaming, outing or just hanging out may help you dilute the pain. Give it a try.

Focus On Your Goals

Thoughts follow attention, if your attention is focused on your ex, then this is where your thoughts will go. You can change them by focusing on your plans for future. Think about how you can pursue them and gradually your thoughts will start flowing in that direction. It takes time and efforts to change the direction of your thoughts but is really worth it.

Have Faith in the Universe

Have faith in the universe that there’s lots of love out there and you’ll get someone just right for you at just the right time. Believe in love and leave everything in the hands of universe.

Love Yourself

It’s quite natural to start feeling guilty and unworthy of love while going through a heartache and you know what? It’s the dumbest thing you could do. It lowers your self esteem and affects your self confidence. Always remember you are a person worthy of love and good things.

Love yourself, nurture yourself. You are the most important and valuable person in your life. Treat yourself with love and respect.

Do you find it difficult to approach and talk to people in authoritative positions?

I know you can feel uncomfortable if you’re not prepared. So, here are 7 tips to talk to people in authoritative positions and help you overcome the nervousness.

Remember, They are also  Human Beings like You

The person whom you are going to meet is a human being just like you. Don’t see him as a monster. There’s really no reason to feel nervous.

Go Through Proper Channel

People in authoritative positions are quite busy. They often have to meet a lot of people in a day. Not to mention their personal/social lives. It’s advisable that you meet them only after taking appointment. Trying to meet them without prior appointment may disturb them and you request may be put down.

Reach on Time

Once you get the appointment, make sure you reach there on time. Keep in mind that he has other meetings too and you can’t be entertained in time allotted to someone else.

Be Clear About the Things You Want to Discuss

Meeting an officer without being clear about what you want to talk will only create confusion. Do your homework and write all the points you want to discuss on a paper. It’s a nice way to keep the conversation to the point.

Talk With Respect

Talking with respect is a sure shot way to make the meeting productive and congenial. Use Sir/madam whichever is appropriate. Listen carefully and pay attention to the instructions/suggestions.

Stay At Ease

No matter whom you are going to meet and for what purpose, being at ease is the base of any productive meeting. Wear comfortable clothes, breathe deeply and feel good about yourself.

End the Meeting With A Thank You

At the end of the meeting, let the person know that you are grateful for his cooperation. Say thank you with a smile. It’s worth it.

Nowadays, I hear a lot about how to save the environment. I feel that big changes can bring about if we just care for little things, you know, those trivial things we never notice..hmm?

Let me share with you one incident and you’ll understand what I mean.

Long time ago, I was visiting my parents in Muzaffarnagar, Western UP,  by train on a warm and pleasant winter day.

There were many young boys in the compartment, and it appeared from their conversations that they were returning home after appearing in some competitive exam.

A peanut seller boarded the train and most of the boys in the compartment bought peanuts. Me too. I emptied the paper bag into my pocket, kept it in my lap and started putting the peels in it.

A guy who had been watching me, asked sarcastically “what will you do with this waste?”
“I’ll throw it where it belongs-the dustbin”.

There was kind of pin-drop silence in the whole compartment, all the boys were looking at me, and that guy looked embarrassed, because he, along with other boys was throwing waste on the floor.

The embarrassment disappeared soon and they kept on littering. They felt that littering is cool.

It’s NOT.

And moreover, it’s not about littering or not littering. It’s about having respect for mother earth-the very planet you live on.

So, I am sharing with you 5 ways to save the environment, but before that, let’s understand why should you do that?

It’s Cool

Youth is another name for energy. Some young people take great pleasure in defying the authority. Braking rules and norms sounds cool to them. But it’s not cool. In fact, keeping your surroundings clean is the coolest thing you could ever do.

It Raises Your Self Esteem

When you keep your surroundings clean and tidy, it makes you feel good, because you are being a responsible person. Living such a responsible and graceful life raises your self esteem.

It Inspires Others

We all learn from each other. When your friends and classmates notice you making efforts to save the environment, they also get inspired to do the same. Gradually, it becomes a chain reaction, where everyone supports everyone else. A good example is Delhi metro. The same people who litter on the road keeps the metro clean, because they don’t want to be seen as uncivilized.

And now, 5  ways to save the environment

Get the Gifts Wrapped in Paper

Plastic gift wrapping sheets look fancy but are toxic. They pollutes the soil and may also get into the drainage system and block the sewer. Fancy paper gift wrappings are as cool as their plastic counterparts and serve the same purpose.

The receiver will anyway keep the gift only and throw away the wrapping.

Next time when you plan to gift something, consider getting it wrapped in paper.

Throw Garbage in Dustbin Only

Some people have a habit of throwing garbage anywhere-streets, roadsides, footpaths, trains, buses, hospitals, pavements, you name it.

That’s really bad. You don’t throw garbage in your home, you don’t litter in your office. Then why do it outside?  Garbage is meant to be thrown in dustbin only. That’s the only place it belongs.

Don’t Honk

How would you feel if I keep on honking at your back constantly?
Bad, irritated, stressed… Right?

That’s exactly how others feel when YOU honk. Horn were devised to draw attention of others in case of an emergency, and not to be blown every other second.

Next time you get ‘inspired’ to blow horn. Pause for a moment and think if it’s  really necessary?  90 percent of the time it’s not. I don’t remember the last time I blew horn. I rarely need it. On the road, it’s just a matter of patience and courtesy.

Walk

Why use vehicles unnecessarily? If the distance you need to cover is short, why not walk?  Walking saves fuel and the environment and also keeps you healthy.

Stop Reading Newspapers

Newspapers are a great source of negativity. They keeping dumping in your mind what’s wrong, what’s not working and rarely bother about the good happening in the world.

Keep reading newspapers if you want to turn negative, but if that isn’t the case, then probably you should stop reading them.

But then how do I stay informed, you ask.

Well, you could use internet, radio or television. One more reason to stop reading newspapers is that they are printed on paper and in the process thousands of trees get cut every year.

Stop reading newspapers today. It’ll save you some peace of mind and not to mention-the environment.