A breakup brings pain, tears and heartache. Life comes to a halt. Nothing seems to work. Dreams gets shattered and you feel hopeless, but it doesn’t have to be like that.
Gather courage, take control of your life and move on. Here are 8 tips to deal with a breakup.
Accept the Reality
We always want to stay in control and sometimes, we do succeed but there are times, when things are not in our hands. Call it destiny, fate, luck, life, god or whatever you like. One thing is for sure that there’s some mysterious power greater than us doing things we may not like. A break up could be one of such things, but don’t be too harsh on yourself.
Don’t Push Yourself too Hard to Forget Her
You have seen beautiful dreams with her, made so many promises to her that now it seems almost impossible not to have her by your side. Hard it may sound, but the reality is, she is no more your girl friend. You want to forget her. Why? Because she didn’t turn up as you had expected?
Remember those moments you’ve had with her? They were so beautiful that you wanted them to last forever. Don’t insult those moments by trying to forget her. Be grateful instead- for those magical moments of love, for those beautiful evenings, for those caring nights, for those cozy afternoons, for the joy, laughter and fun.
She made your life a lot richer than ever. Let those memories stay with you or may be, let them go. Do whatever feels right. Don’t fight. Just go with the flow.
Life is infinite. You never know what plans life has for you in store. Harboring a grudge in your heart is not a good idea. You don’t know the real reason why she dumped you? You only know what she told you or maybe you assumed something by yourself.
She may be still in love with you and wants to be with you, but, maybe she has some other reasons not to stay in a relationship anymore and she doesn’t want you to know those reasons.
Who knows what happened? Don’t be judgmental.
You loved her so much that you can’t afford NOT to forgive her. She deserved the love then and now she deserves the forgiveness. Forgive her and move on.
This too Shall Pass
Nothing lasts forever. Things change with time either for good or bad. It’s up to you, how you see them. It’s just a matter of time. Time is the greatest healer. It heals every wound, no matter how deep it is. Give yourself some time and soon you’ll see the pain disappearing and life getting back to normal again.
Spend Time with Family and Friends
A breakup is not the end of the world, though it may seem like one.
No matter what, life goes on. You need to go with the flow. Family and friends can help you overcome the heartache. Share with them what you are going through – emotions, mental blockages, grudge or whatever that is bothering you.
Maybe, you can share it with your father. Does that sound scary and impractical? If yes, let it be, you might surprise yourself to get some wonderful tips and emotional support from his side. (he also might have gone through the same trauma sometime)
Friends also can help you feel good about yourself. Do spend time with them. Online gaming, outing or just hanging out may help you dilute the pain. Give it a try.
Focus On Your Goals
Thoughts follow attention, if your attention is focused on your ex, then this is where your thoughts will go. You can change them by focusing on your plans for future. Think about how you can pursue them and gradually your thoughts will start flowing in that direction. It takes time and efforts to change the direction of your thoughts but is really worth it.
Have Faith in the Universe
Have faith in the universe that there’s lots of love out there and you’ll get someone just right for you at just the right time. Believe in love and leave everything in the hands of universe.
It’s quite natural to start feeling guilty and unworthy of love while going through a heartache and you know what? It’s the dumbest thing you could do. It lowers your self esteem and affects your self confidence. Always remember you are a person worthy of love and good things.
Love yourself, nurture yourself. You are the most important and valuable person in your life. Treat yourself with love and respect.