The night becomes too deep and intense just before the pleasant sunrise.
Same is the case with difficult times. They are simply transitioning phases of your life. They indicate that something far greater is around the corner.
The challenge, however, is, to stay positive during difficult times. Well, here are 8 tips to help you out.
Stay Focused on What You ‘DO’ Want.
You’re more likely to lose focus when hard times are on to you. You start thinking about the things you DON’T want. For example
I don’t want to fail.
I don’t want to suffer.
I don’t want to stay behind etc.
Just think, have you ever visited a restaurant where waiter comes and asks you “Yes sir, what would you like NOT to have?
Well, no such restaurant exists. The waiter is supposed to ask “Yes sir, what would you like to have?” You go through the menu card, decide what you want and place an order. Simple!
Life is also about placing orders with your thoughts and actions. When you use the right thoughts and actions, you get what you want. So, be persistent and stay focused on your dreams.
Find Time to Relax
Nowadays life has become so busy that we don’t even find time to unwind and be with ourselves. All we worry about is work, work and more work. Work is important, but so is relaxation. Go, find some time for it.
Get a massage
Though you surely can go to a spa for an expensive massage, but if that’s not in your budget, why not try your neighborhood barber?
Visiting the local hair salon in your vicinity could be a good idea to get a head and shoulders massage at a reasonable price.
Go for A Walk in a Park
The natural ambiance of a park gives you a great chance to consume tons of fresh air and spend some time alone. Try walking on the grass bare footed, it’s a pleasure you won’t find anywhere else.
Watching moon for a while may give you a sense of oneness with the universe. Moon is a symbol of peace, purity and tranquility. It’s said to have calming effect on your mind and that’s exactly what you need to battle negativity.
Watch Your Favorite Movie
Watching your favorite movies is a wonderful experience. Just get the DVD from the local library or shop, switch off your mobile phone, grab a cup of coffee and enjoy.
Apart from the ideas above, playing with kids, walking down the street with your wife (or your neighbor’s, if you are lucky) or killing enemies on play station could also help you relax.
Spend Time with Positive People
It’s better alone than in a bad company. Spend some time with positive people. It’ll help you see the world from a fresh perspective. Hanging out with a bubbly and positive girl for even 15 minutes is more empowering than spending a whole day with a negative person.
Read Inspiring Books
Reading inspiring books is a great way to increase positive vibes around you. Try to read something positive just before going to bed.
Also, reading biographies of people who survived hard times and rose above the else will boost your morale.
Do Something Out Of Your Comfort Zone
We all have our comfort zones. We do things in a certain way and rarely think of trying something new. When you do something that you’ve never done before, it makes you a little nervous but when you are through, you feel far more confident, which helps you become more positive.
Ask Successful People How ‘They’ Did It
The people who you think never had a hard time also faced challenges, handled criticism and survived difficult times. They have something which is far more valuable than anything else-EXPERIENCE.
Request successful people to share with you some insights.
Ask how they did it.
Ask what worked and what didn’t.
Ask if they have any advice for you.
I have an uncle in my family with whom I never talked much for around 20 years. One day we were sitting together and he started sharing his life experiences, how he faced challenges and survived tough times.
I was amazed at his courage and enthusiasm and felt sorry for myself for not talking to him earlier. Never assume that people will not share their success secrets, you will not know until you ask.
Watch What You Eat
We have a saying in India “Jaisa khao ann, waisa ho jaye mann” (The type of food you eat have great impact on your mind)
Eat spicy and junk food and you’ll feel anxiety and stress all day long.
Eat raw and unprocessed food and you’ll feel calmer and better.
I know it’s easy to grab a ready-to-eat burger, hotdog or pizza than preparing a nice raw salad but the time spent preparing a healthy meal is worth it. The food you eating will make a positive or negative effect on your emotional state.
Start off your meals with a plate full of raw vegetables and fruits. Eat salad first, main course later.
Also, if you drink, limit your alcohol intake and try herbal tea or a simple glass of good old milk before going to bed. It promotes good sleep and helps you rejuvenate.
Clean and Organize Your Closet
Have you ever got frustrated because you were already late for work and couldn’t find your black pair of socks in the closet?
It may be because the closet is cluttered. Do yourself a favor, clean it.
Get everything out-yes, every single thing. Take a good look at all the clothes, and sort them in three groups.
Group 1- Clothes you want to keep (Keep them)
Group 2- Clothes you want to discard (Throw them away)
Group 3- Clothes you want to give away (Give them to someone)
A clean and organized closet gives you peace of mind and clarity of thoughts. I know it sounds too simple but then who says staying positive needs to be complicated.
P.S. To stay positive during difficult or not so difficult times, I encourage you to read Amsdaily.net – Your Daily Dose of Inspiration by Alpha.